Monday, June 19, 2017

Boredom Isn't Such a Bad Thing

It was after my mom sent a text of a page in her Better Homes and Gardens that I felt the conviction.  I had to make a change.  And it had to be now.

I held out my hand to collect their phones and their ipods.  They looked at me like I had two heads.  "What about yours?" they asked?  Mine too.  Especially mine.

"But what if you receive an important call?"  Ahhh, the beauty of technology.  Even that one was covered.  I have handsfree capabilities.  Even with my phone in the way back of the car, I can receive and make calls through the bluetooth in my phone.  And guess what?  If there is a true emergency and I need to talk to someone about something important, it might just be better if I pull off the road to make or receive that call anyway.

And then we had this conversation.

Me (to the almost teenager in the passenger seat): I am feeling like I need to make a change.  If my phone is right here at the ready, I am much more tempted to check a text that comes through, look at Facebook while waiting at a light, or even see what podcasts have come available.  It is not safe for me to be doing that.  The other day I had to slam on brakes because I was looking at my phone and I didn't notice the car in front of me had stopped.  And think of all I am missing while busying myself on my phone.  When I am in my car, I should be looking around, noticing the changing seasons, the way our little town is adapting to meet the population growth in our area, and enjoying the scenery.  I choose right now, this moment, to become better about not looking at my phone.  And if that means putting it out of my own reach, that's what I will do.

My almost teenager: But I'm bored.  What can I do while we are driving?

Oh, the answers I could have come up with.  But my mind steered me straight back to the text message from my mom.

Me: How about looking around?  In a few short years, you'll be the one behind this steering wheel.  You'll be driving to school, making Target runs, picking up your little brother from school. (YIKES!)  Will you know the way?  If you are constantly looking down at your phone, will you know how to get to Target???  And, let me tell you how bored you will be, or worse, how broken you will be if you hurt yourself or someone else because you are looking down at your phone when you are driving your little brother home from school. 

Silence in the car.

Jonah: You're right.  I understand.

Best four words a mama can hear.  And one of the best conversations we've ever had.  I know I need to be the role model in the driver's seat.  It may change the trajectory of my life.





2 comments:

  1. Great post Pam! I will try to make a change too!

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  2. Thank you, Graham! I have had a lot of meaningful conversations at stop lights with my kids already! :)

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