Monday, March 2, 2015

Sometimes You Just Have to Give It

I've been thinking a lot about something I heard last week.

Sometimes you have to give the thing you feel like giving the least. 

This statement has changed my perspective on life in a lot of ways.  There are times when I have felt lonely and all I wanted was someone to wrap me up in a big bear hug.  There are times when I wanted to shout for everyone in my house to JUST BE QUIET!!!  And there are definitely times when I wish someone would notice all the time and effort I put into being a good friend or a good wife or a good mother.

But when I heard Pastor Furtick say that sometimes we need to "give the thing we feel like giving the least," it struck a cord with me.  I thought of some ways I can put these words into practice right away.  They sound simple, but they can mean so much.

When you need a hug, give a hug.

When you need forgiveness, give forgiveness.

When you need peace and quiet, give peace and quiet.
Have you ever noticed that when you whisper to a child, he will whisper back?  It worked in my classroom, and it works in my home too.

When you need appreciation, give appreciation.

When you need a smile, give a smile.
Read this article and watch a quick video about smiling.  Or just ponder this: It takes 43 muscles to frown, but only 17 to smile; kids smile 400 times a day whereas the average adult smiles 20 times; people who smile not only seem happier, but appear more competent as well.  AND smiling can increase your mood and reduce your blood pressure.  Do you need any more reasons to smile?

When you need love, give love.  I had to search through the archives of one of my favorite blogs to find these words from Ann Voskamp...

Four times a day think on love. When I leave the marriage bed, leave the front door, when  I return to front door, return to marriage bed.  These are the four critical archways of time in our day. Touch or whisper a sweet nothing when passing through these gate points, and we walk into hours of closeness. Forever love fixates like fresh love.
It is easy, when a couple has been together for many years, and especially when there are kids involved, to go through the entire day without speaking about anything but the kids and the bills and without even touching each other.  But a touch and a quick kiss on the cheek (or lips) can make such a difference in how we feel about each other and how we feel about ourselves.

And finally, when you need laughter, give laughter.

After all, isn't laughter the best medicine?

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